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Should Women Get Special Treatment at Restaurants?
so, lady's first, no?
Should Women Get Special Treatment at Restaurants?
yes, I strongly agree with the bill paying nonsense frustration. Whenever I eat at a slightly more upscale restaurant with a man of any kind, boyfriend, platonic friend, father, gay friend, etc., the man is always handed the bill, both before and after the credit card is put down. Even when it's my credit card!!! This drives me crazy. Grr. And I live in New York City!!
For a while I was convinced that this was society's subtle way of saying I shouldn't pay for any meals, haha. But seriously, sometimes I am paying (and generally for my half), and this behavior really bugs me.
Should Women Get Special Treatment at Restaurants?
I really can't believe this is even a question. I'll hold the door open for my (male) coworkers if we're going somewhere for lunch, because it's a nice thing to do -- I don't expect doors to constantly be held for me, and quite frankly I'd think it were odd if they always were. Same with ladies at the table being asked for their orders before the men. Whoever is ready to order first should order first.
The only point I can agree to here is the inappropriateness of the check automatically being handed to the man at the table. It should go back to the middle of the table unless one diner handed the server the check, then back to him/her.
Should Women Get Special Treatment at Restaurants?
@OneWallKitchen, I love Free to Be You and Me!
I don't see why it matters at this point. Especially if the food comes out at once, who cares what plate is set down first? And no assumptions should be made as to who is paying, etc. As long as the service is prompt and polite, women don't have to be first. I agree, Robyn, just feed me!!
Should Women Get Special Treatment at Restaurants?
On a date, I'm usually asked first for my order. If I know what I want, I order first - if I'm close but need another minute, I'll ask that the server take the gentleman's order. (If I don't know him well and he's paying, I might base my order on his - especially regarding price point). If we aren't ready, they come back. Same applies for a group. I appreciate the chivalrous intent. If my dining companion isn't a wine drinker, they often defer the first taste to me. I can be chivalrous too, and offer......hehe.
If I'm taking a gentleman out for dinner (could be friend, sweetie, brother,client), I'll find a way to let the server know to give me the check. I'll slip my credit card under my hand, catch the server's eye, and make sure they see it. Same goes if I'm treating a friend and I don't want to have to fight for the check. My guest usually doesn't know or hear, but the servers have never forgotten. I think it's only fair to give an indication before-hand, as it's a little uncomfortable to have a bill sitting in the middle of the table and not knowing who is going to take it. In some situations, we've given them two cards and asked them to split the bill.
I'm a lady, and I appreciate being treated like a lady. That doesn't mean I never pay. I get very annoyed if a course is being served, and there is a long wait for everyone at the table to get their food, as it's rude to start eating in that case. I'd rather it sit in the kitchen until all are served at one time. It had better be the right temp when it reaches me, however. The order in which the plates are delivered makes no difference, as long as they are all ready.
So, do I expect special treatment? Yes, but just a little?
Should Women Get Special Treatment at Restaurants?
I work at a casual dining establishment (a gastropub, actually). Honestly, we don't look at the credit card that often, nor does anywhere else that I know of. However, if you put the card down towards your side of the table, I will return it in the same fashion. If it is in the middle, back in the middle it goes. I try not to make this a big deal, so I just place the receipt in the same place the card was.
I would like to say that I pour beer out of ordered pitchers for every table, and the way I do that has caused problems. It becomes a problem when I pour the man's beer first. I always do this, and I have a reason...the first beer has more head. Therefore, the better beer is the second. I have had many men hand their first pour beer to their dates...but I do it for a reason. I am actually looking out for the woman and giving her the better pour. So, sometimes, your server has good intentions in mind. We are not always looking out for the money. (As much as people who have never been servers may think. I actually never think about how much I can squeeze out of a table...I offer dessert because we make delicious desserts. I offer more rounds because I like hanging out with you [or your dog]. It is never a money issue.)
Should Women Get Special Treatment at Restaurants?
Call me blonde, but I've absolutely never noticed this. Call me a New Yorker, but overt displays of chivalry kind of turn me off.
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so, lady's first, no?