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I'm a Boodles guy, but we also enjoy Citadelle when we come across it (alas, not in Ohio). Stir in some Noilly Prat and you have a perfect French Martini. Whoda thunkit?

Anyone know how I would go about ordering one? Call HQ?

These are all great ideas guys, thanks! I feel a LITTLE better today (at least I was able to sleep better, and my skin is no longer radiating heat) and I THINK it might be turning into a tan, with the exception of my forehead, which is currently peeling. I made myself some cucumber soup (PERFECT suggestion since I love cucumbers...it's actually a running joke at the office that I bring cucumber slices or sandwiches for lunch a lot) and had a gin and tonic and a lime popsicle and felt much better. I think I'll make some gazpacho tonight, I haven't done it in awhile. Thanks again, always wear sunscreen!!

Neither is a deal-breaker unless the person is fanatic about it, or tries to convert me to their ways. Same goes for just about anything -- religion, politics, milk-or-sugar -- whatever. I'm perfectly happy to have a reasoned discussion about whatever it might be, and I'm just as willing to let the topic lie undisturbed, but I'm not fond of people who insist that I should change who I am to suit them.

I'm actually more interested in people who are unlike me than those who could be my clones. I like learning about other people's cultures (including foods) and beliefs. I might not agree with them or embrace them in my own life, but I find it interesting on an intellectual level.

Things that are deal breakers are unkindness and ill manners of all sorts. Some ill manners I might excuse in a friend or relative that I wouldn't accept in a mate, however. Luckily, that choice is already made.

I agree wholeheartedly with Karen Resta, while I love both food and books, I am of the opinion that the heart and soul of a person determines their worth.

I am a pescetarian married to an omnivore, but we have had few problems since we do both love food. And we are both readers. While I don't worry too much about WHAT he reads, the fact that he DOES read was important. The previous boyfriend didn't read newspapers and was never in the middle of a book. 'Twas a deal-breaker, for sure.

Books are more of a dealbreaker for me. Anyone who likes Ayn Rand is out. Anyone who likes Nabokov is in.

I don't think food is quite as important as the person's attitude towards life, especially since the kind of food someone eats changes over time more than the mindset defined by the books they like. And it's a lot easier to sneak kale into someone's dish than Dickens into their hearts.

my current boyfriend grew up in household where a "cooked dinner" meant anything that could be put in the microwave and ketchup poured on it. he lives on junk food and frozen dinners. many things he had never had until he began coming to my house to eat. he is WILLING to try new things - and that makes all the difference. someone who was just picky and stuffy would be a deal-breaker

I think they deal breaker for me would be if that certain someone DIDN'T eat or DIDN'T read. I'm a voracious reader, but I don't expect everyone to have my tastes. However, I do immediately suspect someone of ignorance/stupidity/mind-numbing boorishness if they don't ever read, or worse yet, think I'm stupid for having my nose in a book.
As far as eating goes, I'll admit it's difficult to deal with someone with crazily stunted appetites or limited diet, and I know from experience that it's also tough to be in a relationship with someone who is really blase about food (luckily my friends are foodies, so that helps). However, the one deal breaker for me was in college when I dated a wrestler. I mean a real one, not that WWE crapola. He had such a bad, BAD relationship with food, as the scale always determined which weight class he would compete in. He was always either starving himself or gorging on horrible food. If I ate when he was in a "starvation" phase, he made disparaging comments all the while about whatever I was eating. If I was in the mood for a salad while he was binging on 6 deep-fried twinkies, I was accused of "not being a team player". I couldn't hack it.
Yup, gotta read, gotta eat (among other things, like don't bump uglies with other girls and such).

@Karen Resta: I can laugh about it now, but then embarassment and astonishment was all I felt. Location had no bearing either. Picture going out to dinner with a Caveman to a nice restaurant (we went to dinner where it was jacket and tie mandatory) and you look across the table. First dinner date, great food, great drinks, and then BAM. That's across from you. I remember asking him if his arm was hurting. His response, "No, why?" I had no words. Ugh...

@BangieB: Are we talking about the same guy!!?? Serious. I still wonder how a person can hold a utensil that way-and the stabbing. Never seen anything like it.

Definitely books.
You can encourage a mate to eat better over time.
Most people don't take kindly to attempts at "elevating" their reading material.