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Belgian Waffle's Secret Ingredient Is Beer
I'm glad that you came up with a reasonable use for genny cream ale because it's certainly not potable. When I was in college in ohio (right along lake erie), we couldn't even pawn it off on people. They'd rather be sober than drink the cream ale.
Sautéed Brussels Sprouts With Bacon
I'll have to check that James Peterson book out. I read his book on french cooking, and it blew my mind with its awesomeness. I can only imagine what his teaching book is lie.
Scotch or Bourbon?
This was an argument that I was having with myself recently. I like scotch, but I prefer the depth of bourbon. There's more going on there for me, and I like the woody flavor of it.
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When Is It Socially Acceptable to Share Food?
Sharing is not completely off the table for me, but it has to occur within lines. I know there are people who like to just send their forks into other people's plates. That will end up with someone who is not me losing their hand as well as their fork.
If someone asks, I'll give them some; I'm not a monster. Even still, you've got to be pretty tight with me to even take this sort of risk. But, when I go to a restaurant, I'm not one of those communal plate people. It's sort of gross to me and, as well, if I really wanted what you have, I would have just ordered it.
All of this said, I'm not anti-sharing, but only when it's appropriate like a dinner party, family meal, or something that requires a team effort. Otherwise, I keep my plate to myself.
Belgian Waffle's Secret Ingredient Is Beer
I'm glad that you came up with a reasonable use for genny cream ale because it's certainly not potable. When I was in college in ohio (right along lake erie), we couldn't even pawn it off on people. They'd rather be sober than drink the cream ale.
Sautéed Brussels Sprouts With Bacon
I'll have to check that James Peterson book out. I read his book on french cooking, and it blew my mind with its awesomeness. I can only imagine what his teaching book is lie.
Scotch or Bourbon?
This was an argument that I was having with myself recently. I like scotch, but I prefer the depth of bourbon. There's more going on there for me, and I like the woody flavor of it.
A Map of Regional Foods
I thought other places have half-smokes, but clearly I am wrong. Whatever though. DC Half-smokes are delicious. I'm partial to mumbo sauce, that mystery wing sauce that can only be found in DC. There's a mumbo bbq sauce in Chicago, but I guarantee you that it's not the same thing by a longshot.
I Like Flat Buns and I Cannot Lie
I should also note that patty melts are delicious and my favorite diner meal. Hit it with the side of mayo and the ketchup dipping pool and everything's good.
I Like Flat Buns and I Cannot Lie
You can't be serious. A burger is a burger regardless of your means of conveyance. Frankly, I think that buns are overrated. They are nice and all, but I actually prefer using a couple of pieces of toast instead of a bun; it's less bread to get in the way of the meat. Don't get this statement misconstrued, I won't turn down a bun, but I'll choose a couple slices of toast if I have the option.
Bourbon's Back
I'm a whiskey drinker through and through. Love the stuff. I personally like 100-proof old grand-dad and maker's mark. Woodford Reserve and Knob Creek are nice, but I don't drink them as often. My standby whiskey is definitely that 100-proof old grand-dad. You may scoff at the affordability, but it's just as nice as the higher end whiskeys at like half the price.
Paula Deen Is Trying to Kill Us 2: Bacon-Wrapped Fried Mac
I'm glad that someone else caught this. It was a frightening sight to wake up on saturday morning to a woman wrapping macaroni and cheese in baking and deep frying it. I think that it literally made my heart hurt without eating it. Although, the fan of fried foods in me wanted to at least try it.
how much food channel (hours) do you watch per week?
I used to like watching the food network a lot, but then they started showing rachael ray all of the time. Along with her meals taking more than thirty minutes, they also weren't very good. I noticed that this was a running theme throughout a lot of the new programming. The only shows that I watch on the channel now are Molto Mario (when I can catch it), Iron Chef, Ina Garten, and Giada (She's a bit too perky for me, but she has good recipes). I'll watch some of the other shows if I'm up to it, in particular Good Eats, Easy Entertaining, and Essence of Emeril (it was the show that got me into food network). But, in terms of hours, probably like 3-5 hours/week.
Paula Deen Is Trying to Kill Us 2: Bacon-Wrapped Fried Mac
I wish people would lighten up on Paula. She's more an entertainer than anything else, and a darn good one for people who enjoy and appreciate Southern culture and cooking. As I once heard her comment, followed by that charming cackle of hers, "Honey, I'm your cook, not your doctor."
For those who want a healthful emphasis, there's certainly no shortage of personalities, ideas and resources out there (so let's enjoy Paula for what she is). Personal favorite on the healthy side:
When Is It Socially Acceptable to Share Food?
I'm a sharer. With family and some friends I will share any of mine and try any of theirs, often finishing the left over bits or cleaning up other peoples plates. Sometimes I steal food from others without asking, but knowing that those people won't mind. Sharing goes beyond food, and extends to utensils in my family, I know its not for everyone, but it works out great for us.
When Is It Socially Acceptable to Share Food?
If I'm eating with friends or my boyfriend (which is almost always who I'm eating with when I'm out), then I'll offer a taste of whatever I'm eating, ESPECIALLY if I like it. Share the wealth! I have like-minded friends, so they usually offer back - if they don't, I don't even usually notice. I may ask for a small taste if it's something I really want to try, but I'm not militantly pro- or anti-sharing.
When Is It Socially Acceptable to Share Food?
sharing does not bother me at all...just DON"T eat from my personal dish in front of me...or try to feed me off your fork/chopsticks..I will leave !!!
When Is It Socially Acceptable to Share Food?
One of my favorite "shared" meals was at NOPA in SF. All three of us agreed upon three dishes...we would eat and then say switch and we would move the plate to the next person...probably not for everyone but so good for us!!! I love eating with good friends.
When Is It Socially Acceptable to Share Food?
It seems unnatural for me not to share, but then I grew up in a family where sharing food was the norm. It was very weird one time when I went out with a group of friends to a place I knew had mediocre big portions (I was outvoted on where to go) and asked if anyone wanted to split a dish with me and they all looked at me like I was insane. I shut-up and at the end no one finished their meal.
There are some unspoken rules to polite sharing though. If you ask, make sure you have something to give back. My mom is the queen of breaking this rule, she'll always be like I'm not that hungry I'll just have a bite of yours and of course half the time she's paying so it's not like anyone can say no. It was especially obnoxious when we were in Italy where you're trying to taste as much of everything in the short amount of time you have. I think this stems from when my sister and I were kids and would never finish our meals, but we're not kids anymore.
Another is don't force anyone to order what you want just to share. My littlest sister is famous for doing this and she gets away with it because stepmom wants her to eat. I was amazed at how she dictated what my stepmom and dad would eat and when she turned to me I was just like uh uh I know what I'm getting.
Ask ask ask is the third. There are certain occasions where you don't have to (my sister and I never do when we go out to eat together, but we've been doing that a long time) but always err on the side of asking. It's just good to be polite.
Different occasions call for different types of sharing. Now that I've moved I've got to find new dining companions who like to share.
When Is It Socially Acceptable to Share Food?
@janaatwg , you or someone close to her should really take your friend aside and tell her that her behavior is alienating her friends. Maybe she is not fully aware.
When Is It Socially Acceptable to Share Food?
First of all I think one should never 'steal' off another's plate. Silverware incl chopsticks were originally weapons to defend one's food, so permission should be asked before reaching over, unless permission was firmly previously established.
I have a problem with 'plate envy' so I may choose to order the same thing as another, because why order something else, only to then desire the other's plate more than my own. So right on @ksimmy. I usually interview my table mates before I make a choice, unless I had one of those lucky days where I have a craving that the restaurant can fulfill.
I am happy to have you share, and may put the brakes on if you are eating most of mine, and none of yours (which I don't desire either).
I can't stand all that germ phobic behavior of 'you can have that corner, I didn't touch it'. If you are that phobic you are unsuitable for sharing I think.
I love family style because my preference is usually a little taste of everything. Getting Chinese take-out with my mate is a challenge 'cause he just orders and eats his one or two things and doesn't want any of mine. (He is a reluctant sharer-but has been trainable.) So that's makes for less variety. I solve this issue by ordering 3 dishes for me, me, and me and eating the leftovers for lunch over a few days. Problem solved.
Sharing is nice but what is even nicer is respecting people's eating preferences incl wether they share or not (and not incl. someone forbidding for you to order the same as them).
When Is It Socially Acceptable to Share Food?
Bottom line, there are many factors if you should share or not. They are...
1. The people you are dining with
2. What kind of restaurant you are at
3. how hungry you are
4. how good the dish is that you ordered.
And that rule about ordering the same dish? Order what you want, get what you are craving! Don't deny yourself anything! Especially when you are paying for it!
When Is It Socially Acceptable to Share Food?
Sharing is the standard for me and my husband. We almost never order the same dish. Usually upon their arrival we each taste both of the dishes. If one of us strongly prefers the other's dish, we switch. If we both really like both dishes, we each eat about half and then switch plates. If we both like the same dish and both really dislike the other (which is infrequent), my husband insists that I eat the better dish. We didn't concoct this rigid-sounding regime - it has simply evolved over many years of wedded bliss. A perfect system (ok, less perfect for him)!
When Is It Socially Acceptable to Share Food?
I prefer sharing, though I may be a bit neurotic about making sure there is enough for everyone to try everything. After the Mythbusters episode about "double dipping" I'm much less concerned about someone else's fork.
When Is It Socially Acceptable to Share Food?
I like family style meals and usually like sharing. The only exception to this is when I go to a tapas restaurant...I always feel like there is not enough food and everything is so tasty but there is just so little of it!! I get too stressed out-I just want to ask the server to bring me the rest of whatever I ordered that little taste is NOT enough.
When Is It Socially Acceptable to Share Food?
In some ways I agree with @beersnob and@redfish, but I can share when asked politely. No stabbing. If I have been to the establishment before and want to order something that I really love then I may not want to give it all away so please order a serving for yourself.
I have a friend that will drive you to distraction as well as myself. We plan a gals night out and she arrives a bit late and announces that she can't really hang out with us and she'll just have a bite of ours. That is beyond the pale of sharing and it is hard because every other part of her is so great. She gets included less and less and that is sad. The rule is to, at the very least, order something that you can share if you are asking for some of someone elses food.
When Is It Socially Acceptable to Share Food?
Sharing is permissible any time people agree to share.
When Is It Socially Acceptable to Share Food?
I have one friend for whom most of our eating outs (or occasional takeouts) go thusly: order. eat, eat, eat, eat, switch. eat, eat, eat, eat, switch ... we wind up the meal with both of our plates somewhere near the center of the table as we pick over them ... However, she's about the only person I'll do that with. In my family if we go out we usually ask for a bite, and it's always given ... or we proactively offer a bit of our own as a hint that we want some of theirs.
When Is It Socially Acceptable to Share Food?
Sharing food is alright, it promotes being at ease with the person. If you dont like to share, thats alright I really dont want to fight off a person who acts like a dog anyway.
When Is It Socially Acceptable to Share Food?
My boyfriend and I go out to eat often with our two best friends, and we always try to order four different meals, so as to all taste everything. This seems totally normal to me, but at the same time, I would never do it with someone else (even sharing with our families is off limits).
When Is It Socially Acceptable to Share Food?
Sharing food is beyond tacky. It's something you do as a child, with your family, behind closed doors. The thought of a group of people's dirty cutlery going into my food is enough to make me barf. If you want to try what I'm eating, you should have ordered it. Or better yet, order a different entree next time.
If I'm with a group of people that I know will expect me to share my food, I ask the waitress to split my entree in half and go from there. Otherwise, it's no dice.
When Is It Socially Acceptable to Share Food?
I grew up with a dad who would take pieces of food he wanted off mom's plate without asking. She is a picky eater and this would drive her absolutely nuts. By proxy, it started to drive me nuts too. She isn't someone who takes pleasure in food, she sees eating as a chore. So if someone takes the one bite she was actually interested in.... Anyway, my husband knows not to take without asking. He learned the hard way when he snatched a fry. I'll share bites, but like others have said I order what I order for a reason.
When Is It Socially Acceptable to Share Food?
When is it socially acceptable NOT to share food? Assuming everyone's mom taught "sharing is caring", I find it hurtful when people even consider not sharing. You don't share, you don't come to dinners.
When Is It Socially Acceptable to Share Food?
My husband grew up in a strickly no-sharing household, not even sharing bowls of salsa when eating Mexican food. I grew up in a very "eat-whatever-you-can-reach home." I knew we were getting engaged when he offered me some red beans and rice from his plate :)
When Is It Socially Acceptable to Share Food?
I only share with family members. And vice versa. My son will order something and offer it to me. Sometimes I will try it, sometimes I won't.
I do the same with him. We rarely order the same thing to eat when we go out. Also, I was raised where family style eating wasn't the norm. Later in life I saw the advantages of it and embraced it. But when I am with anyone that isn't family, I pretty much revert back to being very selfish with my food. I don't ask for what they are eating, nor do I share what I am eating with them.
When Is It Socially Acceptable to Share Food?
Ditacting to someone what they should order is just not right, unless it is previously agreed upon.
Other than that, life is too short; eat what you want!
When Is It Socially Acceptable to Share Food?
I haven't seen much from the prepatory side of things but as some one who's worked in a restaurant before it's annoying as HELL for a table of 6 to order one thing from the whole menu.
Especially when they realize they're ordering full meals with sides and not appetizers to which they leave 1/2 to 2/3's full plates. It bogs the kitchen down, is wasteful and defeats the purpose of a large menu.
The point is to get you to come back and try something DIFFERENT again and again if you like our style!
When Is It Socially Acceptable to Share Food?
Oh man, this is my biggest food pet peeve.
Never ever go into my plate unless I offer you a piece of my food, even than don't go into my plate, I will cut you a piece of what I am offering and put it on your plate.
I honestly don't know where this comes from as I'm a pretty giving person and have no issues sharing otherwise, but the picking from the plate has bothered me for as long as I can remember, even as a kid.
There are situations when my BF and I are out with friends and we all agree to order family style or to share a bunch of appetizers, that's fine, but actually taking food off of my plate without being offered is just a NO NO.
My BF and I share food off each others plates at home, but never when we're out, cause we dont want to open that up for others at the table.
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Sharing is not completely off the table for me, but it has to occur within lines. I know there are people who like to just send their forks into other people's plates. That will end up with someone who is not me losing their hand as well as their fork.
If someone asks, I'll give them some; I'm not a monster. Even still, you've got to be pretty tight with me to even take this sort of risk. But, when I go to a restaurant, I'm not one of those communal plate people. It's sort of gross to me and, as well, if I really wanted what you have, I would have just ordered it.
All of this said, I'm not anti-sharing, but only when it's appropriate like a dinner party, family meal, or something that requires a team effort. Otherwise, I keep my plate to myself.