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Asked to bring both a DISH and DRINK to share at potluck

Asking for both drinks and food is unusual. See your point. Block parties maybe. Just go & order a pizza delivered and a couple liters of diet Pepsi.

Asked to bring both a DISH and DRINK to share at potluck

i think it's tacky to have a party for the sole reason of getting yourself and your roommates fed for an extra few days free of charge. And this kind of invitation sent in the spirit of "hey, I don't really care about you or want you here except to the extent that I can get you to bring me some free food and drink to my apt." is what I was referring to as "tacky." I never said that asking to bring both food and drink was necessarily tacky. The first time i read the invite it struck me a little off that I was asked to bring both - that's a little much imo - and it reminded me of my grad school brother and his roommates inviting anbody they had an email address for to their apt. for the sole purpose of getting a bunch of free booze and meals. And that is tacky to put it mildly.

Asked to bring both a DISH and DRINK to share at potluck

UPDATE: The hostess sent an email out explaining to guests that she meant to request guests bring a favorite dish OR drink.

And i like potlucks. It's common amongst my large extended family especially. Again. I just have never been asked to bring both. That said I see I should update my own interpretation of "potluck" and not be so rigid in my expectations around these kinds of things. I think it rubbed me wrong not that I think of it because my brother and his roommates in grad school said they have "BYOB and BFOOD" parties whenever they run too low on cash to afford food for a weekend. He said the leftovers keep them fed for a few days. Tacky but not why everyone has a potluck obviously. My bad.

Asked to bring both a DISH and DRINK to share at potluck

Thank you for the comments; they're all helpful. I've attended few potlucks in the recent months but they were either at smaller gatherings of better known friends & family or the hostess requested only a dish that would accompany a Greek buffet or something specific. In this case it seems cumbersome to bring both a dish (desserts not really welcome in this case) and drink. It's not the cost that rubs me the wrong but always thought it a basic faux paux to ask your guests to provide drinks let alone all the food. I could never send out an invite that asked for more than a favorite dish.

Asked to bring both a DISH and DRINK to share at potluck

Hello! I just received an invite for a festive potluck party. I noticed the host requested that guests please bring a both favorite dish AND drink to share. I'm not sure what to bring but with over 50 guests it will be a lot of food and vino etc, It turns me off a little that the host asked all guests bring both dish and drink. What do you think? Is it typical in potlucks to be asked to bring both? Any other potluck I've had or been to has drinks provided and explained a main course to build round etc.

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