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I also take Digestive Advantage on the recommendation of my gastroenterologist and find that it helps tremendously.
You can be lactose intolerant and still eat some cheeses. Parmesan cheese and bleu cheese are not a problem for me. I can also eat most feta cheeses. Some feta is made with cow's milk and others are made with goat's milk. Go for the goat's milk varieties.
Sour cream is a killer. I had one tiny taste of the cheesecake my husband ordered for dessert and paid the consequences.
My son, also lactose intolerant, can't tolerate chocolate, either. Poor boy.
I can't eat quality ice cream. But, when I crave a little treat, I have ice cream from McDonald's. It never bothers me. I assume that it must be soy-based.