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Yes brooke29 it is a two way street, see she use to cook, but only what she wanted, spiced the way she wanted, and I had no choice it was eat or starve. SO now that I cook, the ship still floats the same way, except I am cooking, she doesn't complain, she has her junk food she would rather eat than my cooking, thats her choice, not mine, it has nothing to do with control, or being self centered, but both of us being independent for many years. I use to try to cook for her, but it was always the same, I end up throwing it out,because it has to much spice for her and no where enough for me, so rather than waste food, I started cooking stuff I like to cook, she does eat some of it, but the majority she wrinkles her nose up at.So before you judge us, you need to know how we are.

Gross. Not a big Padma fan. Hardees should do a porn-y one where a foxy guy eats a burger. Plenty of ladies love burgers and most of my female friends seem do most of the meal decision making.

Owwww! Damn I never wanted a burger so badly. Hehehe

@ibcheft - words simply fail me. So I cook like I want to and if she does not like it too bad for her, she doesn't know what she is missing.

I can only say that I wouldn't make a statement like this even about people I seriously dislike. To me, cooking is about love and giving, not about control and dictating.

@BiereBeer - it's not wrong not to like/eat your spouse's cooking. When I just met my OH, cooking certainly wasn't his forte, and while I'd eat whatever he made on a rare occasion, I have to admit that I appreciated the effort more than the result. However, he's been watching me cook and enjoying my food all this time, and I guess he picked on my "food is love" concept. I know this because last autumn, he cooked an incredibly elaborate gourmet dinner for my birthday, which was bloody amazing, on so many levels.

The thing is, love cannot be selfish, by definition. If you love someone, you want to give and share, you want to do things for her/him, you want to surprise them, you want them to be happy, you want them to enjoy themselves. You don't declare "I cook like I want to and if she does not like it too bad for her", or "I'm not a kitchen/bedroom wife". That is not love. Self-centredness and control are not love. Yes, there are plenty of other ways to express our love, but cooking - and the way you perceive it - is an integral part of it, whether you're on the receiving or giving end.

I am a passionate cook and my husband is a passionate cook. Nevertheless, we don't like the same kinds of food ( I like healthy light, he likes heavy fatty spicy) and so we each cook separately and it works just fine. Every once in a while one of us will come home after a long day, take a look at what the other is cooking and ask to have some, but that is about it. For holidays and dinner parties we agree on what we are serving. Our kids eat mostly what I cook. What can I say? It works for us.

No way! I do the majority of the cooking at our house, I am nice and suffer through when my OH wants to cook, the food is alright but the only seasoning this woman uses is salt and pepper. So I always try to make enough for at least two meals. My dilemma is if I put enough spice in to flavor the food, she throws a fit and eats junk, well after while you get use to it. So I cook like I want to and if she does not like it to bad for her, she doesn't know what she is missing. The kitchen is my domain, told her that when we moved into the house, and to stay out when I am cooking , she use to like to boss but after while she learned I have very selective hearing and what she said went in one ear and out the other. We both work but I have a job where I am usually home early and leave late, so prep works and cooking time is easily adjusted to my schedule. The only time she really wants to do anything in the kitchen is when we have company and I think that is just to protect her femininity, all though our guest even know I do the cooking. So do not feel guilty, enjoy the kitchen it is my place of refuge. I love to cook and experiment, she either likes them or doesn't guess what we sure are not starving. Keep cooking and remember do it with a passion !

I'm retired and my wife still works part time, she's home by noon M-F. I've always cooked. I'm a creative cook and make up recipes (except baking) I'm 79 this year and if I had it to do over I would have done this professionally. More than probably had my own restaurant.