Summer BBQ - How to deal with something tactfully

Was invited to a summer bbq this coming weekend. Asked if I could bring anything, hostess said no. Then she sent an email to me this morning not only asking me to bring a dessert, but to make something very particular. I could see a request for something particular if it is something I am known for (ie "Mary, please bring your delicious cheesecake!") but the hostess has asked me to bring something I have never made before that is of a specific ethnic origin that I am unfamiliar with (not hostess ethnicity but theme she is going with for the bbq).

I think this is rude. Should I just suck it up and make the dish? What would you do?

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