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Ice cream with chocolate sauce, chocolate, chocolate ice cream... you get the idea.

What an a--hole! After 2 years having a friend break up with you by text? You're owed much more than that. Sounds like a good riddance.

I say eat something really crunchy to pass your anger by chewing.
Raw cauliflower?

Awww. Try to treat yourself to something special like a massage or a mani or pedi. If you can get out of the house you might be less tempted to eat too much. But, if you want to spend one day wallowing, may I suggest you eat some bad food that is lower calorie, like low calorie frozen yogurt or soy ice cream instead of ben and jerry's ice cream? That way you won't feel as badly the next day. Here is my favorite low cal soy ice cream:

http://www.yummydietfood.com/2008/06/one-of-my-favorite-yummy-desserts.html

First (((Hugs))).

Second, have yourself a nice culinary pity party, then move on.

I was with someone for eight years who e-mailed me his request for divorce out of the clear blue sky. (I'm talking - we were holding hands the day before I got this e-mail.) I was so devastated, I couldn't eat anything but ramen noodles for days. Eventually, I graduated to eggs. When I could finally sit down to a real meal, I went to Carrabba's because that was the only food that didn't make me nauseous at the thought of it.

Eat what makes you feel better but don't go overboard on anything high fat or high sugar because you'll create a mess you have to contend with when you come out of the haze.

And you will come out of the haze.

I like to eat something ridiculously lavish, that I don't do day to day. The last time I was depressed over interpersonal relations, I made myself a really nice steak with mashed potatoes and grilled asparagus. It's not "alone food" which makes it even better.

Hey, I've had my share of bad break-ups, too. I'm sorry you're in pain right now, but try to keep moving forward. If you need a day to wallow, do it, but then get active. Remember to reach out to your friends. Go out to lunches, dinners, brunches. If money is tight, offer up your place for a potluck or cook-together dinner or brunch. Meet at parks for walks, runs, bike rides. If you have a dog, they are the best at times like these. If not, ask a neighbor if their dog needs walking (but be prepared to pick up poop, otherwise, this activity is not for you).

One of the things that I used to do, was take my dog for a walk to a local coffee shop with outdoor seating and water bowls for dogs. I'd go in, place my order of iced Thai coffee, veggie sandwich on onion bagel, and read the Sunday paper or do the crossword while my dog napped at my feet. Invariably, someone I knew would walk by or come in for coffee. Or strangers would pet my dog and start a conversation about her breed (a most beautiful mutt).

This isn't food related, really, but I'd paint a room. Pick a day, pick a color, call a good friend or two, have some wine or beer or a pitcher of margaritas, and paint. In less than a day, you have totally changed the look of a room. It feels cathartic and you can sit back with your friend and look upon your work with a sense of satisfaction.

As for food, I tend to cook food from my childhood when I feel the need for comfort. I don't know if you would find Korean Spicy Soft Tofu Stew comforting or not, but it sure hits the spot for me.

I tend to be more of a nervous non-eater, which may sound like a good thing, but trust me--it's not. The "post-divorce weight loss plan" had me down to under 100 lbs, Nicole Richie style. Not pretty! The thing that helped the most was being surrounded by good friends, one of whom is a chef. She made the most amazing fresh berry tart with a white chocolate mousse filling. The two of us wolfed it down in one sitting. I think that helped get my appetite back on track! It's been almost 5 years and I still remember that fruity, white-chocolatey goodness.....

Yeah, what a pignose. Reminds me of sex & the city when Carrie got dumped via a post-it. Only I think having a friend send a text is worse!

What a JO! What is wrong with people. After 2 years, that is the best he could do? I understand relationships change and don't always work out, but this just shows he is not worth 10 seconds of your time. Whatever you do, Do Not let him live in your head rent free!! Celebrate you with all of the good people in your life and eat dessert first!

That said, make a list of all of your very favorite foods and eat them in any order you desire. Check them off the list as you go. And don't forget your fruits and vegetables!

Party food sister! You need to throw a party and remember how nice it is to be surrounded by friends that are worthy of you. We all can say what a scumbag he is, and we mean it ... but I know it really hurts no matter what. You spent two years with him and the hurt doesn't just go away overnight. Hang in there and surround yourself with fun people.

Ahhhh, listener...I feel you girl. I caught my douche bag 2 weeks ago Tuesday via text message to some scandalous trifilin' ho at his work. It has been a LONG 2 weeks. He drained the accounts and took our vehicle...basically, because he is a douche bag. I havent eaten a meal that stayed in my body for longer than 10 minutes since that day. (Yeah, you all know the poop gurgles). Does anyone actually know what the caloric intake is if the food is only actually inside your body for less than 10 minutes?

4.5 years of my life down the shitter. Im pretty bitter, we fight daily, I feel the desire to get both him and his whore in a shitload of trouble from their 126 page cell phone bill texting on company time....but the prick still has my heart. Let's kick ass and take names later because I have about HAD IT with bullshit cowards that don't know shit about relationships or love. This prick has never even cut his own steak!

This is the quote my friend Jen slapped on my hate filled diatribe dedicated to his lying, cheating ass....it screams volumes!

"Life is too short to wake up with regrets. So love the people who treat you right. Forget about the one's who don't. Believe everything happens for a reason. If you get a second chance, grab it with both hands. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would be worth it."

I had a friend whose boyfriend broke up with her out of nowhere, after a very close 2 1/2 years. we were talking about his random idiosynchracies to make her feel better, and she realized she had not touched a tomato, cilantro, or avocado the whole time because he detested them.

so we made tomato, avocado, and cilantro salad sandwiches on ciabatta with fresh mozzarella.

I have had situation for years. Food is the last thing that I want when I am in this sort of emotion. For me eating is a waste of time since it will not stay (if you know what I mean), so why bother?. Things that help is veggie /tomato juices, smoothies, Odwala drinks, beer (BUT for myself, not for anyone). Time heals, just take it day by day, your appetite will come back.

He had his friend text you. Seriously? What are these guys, like fourteen years old or something? Maybe it would help to consider this less 'him rejecting you' and more 'him rejecting all sense'. I'm sorry for your pain, and hope you're able to see past the jerk enough to take care of you. (and ChelleyD01, likewise)

Food:
Bananas (a PB, honey, and Banana sammy on whole grain bread would be even better, but start simple)

Chicken noodle soup is sustaining, nourishing, and mild. (even just a mug of broth is good if you can't keep anything else down - don't let yourself dehydrate!!!)

The recommendation of Ensure was a good one; keeping your nutrition up will help keep your mood and coping ability up. Emergen-C is a good alternative, because it doesn't upset the tummy like a huge multi-vitamin can.

You deserve to eat well, you deserve to be healthy, and you deserve to be loved - by yourself first and foremost. Good for you for asking for help!

Pizza cures everything...no, I mean it...check it out.

Grab some friends and go out. Do not sit home. Also if you feel at all like your sinking into depression please go see your doctor.
Go buy some new shoes and clothes. While your out go to Macys and get a makeover. Fix your hair and go out and have some wine, good food and flirt. Life is too short to waste on someone who doesn't consider you to be the center of their universe. F him and the horse he rode in on.
I would have texted back to whomever thought that was ok to do, F him and you!
Don't eat when your upset it is never good.
Eating is best done in happy times.

What a jackass. Sorry to hear it.

My favorite depression food is Ben and jerry's chocolate therapy ice cream. in fact, I ONLY eat it when I'm feeling bad.

As for having a hard time eating, I often find that really simple things work well. Pasta with butter and salt always goes down pretty easy.

first off, Thank you everyone for the support!
and yes, after being upset for a short while, im seeing how much better off things will really be. its still hard but i know i can make it!
i did eat some nice hot fresh brownies fresh out of the oven, and my mom made me delicious beef stew. for some reason soups/stews are the most comforting to me. and this weekend im spending with my girls and we are going out and painting the town red!
again, THANKS EVERYONE!

Oy! I know how you feel. I had a baaaaaaad break up a while back and the cure is a break up party!! there are rules of a break up party:
1. only girls are allowed
2. man hating music must be played like "I will survive" and angry alanis oooo and "enough is enough" by donna summer and ms streisand
3. must have food, Wine and cheese and ice cream. Or margaritas. or pizza or hey whatever you want!!
4. there must be jumping on couches and lip synching and dancing on things.

Feel better.

Cool ranch Doritos or lime and chili Tostitos, with Marzetti's Southwestern Ranch vegetable dip cures all ills (except the flu, in which case corn chips should be avoided at all costs to prevent bad booting)..

bacon.

Chocolate. Ugh. I hate that about myself, but whenever angry, stressed, upset, I eat a horrible amount of chocolate.

What a jerk! You're better off without him, although of course that doesn't get rid of the gnawing in your chest, does it? I'm definitely one of those who doesn't eat when I'm upset. I had one break-up where I didn't eat for two days, my dad had to force-feed me a hotdog. Then I ate a head of lettuce.

My grandfather's dying right now, and I haven't had any appetite since yesterday, but I decided not to let myself starve, so I made shrimp and capellini with a creamy tomato sauce, and it really hit the spot. If you're anything like me, your senses are probably numb right now, so I'd go for bold flavored comfort foods that will do their best to excite your palate. For some reason I only eat chocolate when I'm stressed or under pressure, never when I'm sad!

two new boyfriends...ben and jerry...chocolate fudge brownie or brownie batter work miracles...then get pretty and drink a martini....or five...with girlfriends!

Popcorn is my favorite comfort food, because I can almost always eat it.

Beyond that I am always amazed at the restorative powers of nutella straight from the jar. ;)

Four words: Bean soup and beer. Not only is bean soup eminently comforting...any bean, preferably simmered with a pork product (my faves are pintos with hamhock or northern white bean with fatback-or bacon if you can't get it), but one can eat and slurp and (gasp!) pass gas without any judgement, while also filling oneself with protein and nourishing carbs and nutrients. And the beer thing? Well, amber ale lends itself to bean soups (especially if served with corn bread...which I recommend). And real beer is alive. Get a good quality microbrew. It's rich and tasty, and if one must drink one's disappointments to a dull roar, beer is safe and cozy.
All that being said...
I'm sorry, honey. He didn't deserve you. Better luck next time. And (IMHO), one is better off single tan being taken advantage of or not appreciated.
Kiss, kiss, take care.