What does one bring to a shivah?
My neighbor's mother recently passed and is now holding shivah, I'd like to go and was considering making something to bring, but, not being Jewish, don't know what would be most appropriate/traditional or if I should just make whatever i choose... I was leaning towards a cake/loaf/tart of some kind or maybe cookies... Any ideas?
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5 Comments:
yes, you can bring something sweet. very religious jews don't serve food at their shivas but those who are less strict often do. if they are observant, however, you may want to buy them something instead so that you can be sure that it's certified kosher. if you live in an area where it's hard to get kosher food, a bottle of spirits {just not wine, unless it's kosher} or a box of godiva chocolates are good options.
in observant households, you don't approach the mourners until they acknowlege you, and you can then ask them to tell you about it. you don't have to stay for very long.
cybercita at 9:39PM on 06/10/08
I am not Jewish and went to my first shivah this past winter. I brought cherry, walnut and chocolate rugulach (on Epicurious) and although there was a ton of food there (catered), it was aprreciated. My friends are not very observant at all, so I don't know how that would have gone over at a more orthodox house.
onespicymama at 11:05PM on 06/10/08
The rugelach would be a great item to bring. If they are not religious, a main dish would be much appreciated, so that they need not worry about preparing food during their time of sorrow.
izzy's mama at 11:53PM on 06/10/08
Thanks guys, they're not super orthodox but do abide by most traditions, so I think that some homemade rugelach would do the trick, especially since it's something i've always wanted to try my hand at.
avryan at 9:46AM on 06/11/08
Rugalach is a great idea, or even a coffee cake would be perfect. Typically people bring desserts or fruit trays. Close family and friends make sure there is food for meals for those mourning, but as a guest, a simple dessert item will do. I know you said they're not super orthodox but I'd check to make sure they don't keep strict kosher before you make your own. Otherwise, try to find a kosher bakery to buy from!
Hillary
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Chew on That at 12:48PM on 06/11/08