Do Men Cook Differently Than Women in Restaurants? Can You Tell the Difference?
"It's impossible to glean by looking and tasting whether a dish was created by a man or a woman."

Photographs by Belathée Photography
On Monday night I was one of two sacrificial guys (Alinea's Grant Achatz was the other) on a panel discussion titled Gender Confusion: Unraveling the Myths of Gender in the Restaurant Kitchen. We delved into the following fascinating, potentially freighted, and cosmic question: Do women working in restaurant kitchens have discernibly different cooking styles than their male counterparts? And, can supposedly sensitive palates tell the difference?
Food & Wine editor-in-chief Dana Cowin and thoughtful writer–food philosopher Gwen Hyman, co-author of Urban Italian (written with her chef husband Andrew Carmellini), were the women Achatz and I got to playfully joust with for a couple of hours at the Astor Wine and Food Center in Manhattan.
The set-up was insidiously provocative: We panelists were served five courses, each consisting of two dishes with the same principal ingredient—one cooked by a male chef, the other cooked by a female chef. After tasting each of the paired dishes, each of the panelists had to hazard a guess as to which plate was prepared by which gender.
It was an evening made to order for mayhem and humiliation (I told Grant and the audience that the guys on the panel were engaged in the can't-win culinary discussion equivalent of "Do you still beat your wife?"), all done in good fun and good humor.
So how did the panelists fare in the gender-guessing, gotcha culinary quiz? More important, what conclusions did we collectively and individually draw from the exercise? The answers, after the jump.

We all made semi-educated guesses based on points we raised in the discussion. Sometimes we were all right, other times we were all wrong. I think Cowin was right more than the rest of us. More important, what we learned is that it's impossible to glean by looking and tasting whether a dish was created by a man or a woman, because A) it's impossible to isolate the variables, and B) the men and women doing the cooking sometimes tried to outwit us by engaging in a bit of culinary cross-dressing, by cooking a dish that would be seen and tasted by the judges as being conspicuously and definitively either male or female.
Preconceived Notions
All the panelists came to the discussion with some preconceived notions and cliches. Among them:
- Women chefs use spices more subtly than men
- Male chefs love to make use of lots of toys in their cooking (look out, Grant Achatz)
- Female chefs cook to nurture and feed people's souls, while male chefs cook to compete and impress
- Women chefs are more likely to cook soulful "grandmere-style" food than their male counterparts, who are much more likely to be into dazzling, technique-driven cooking
- Male chefs like to cook red meat; women chefs are much more likely to cook pink food and use edible flowers
- Women chefs are more precise. They follow instructions more carefully than men do
- Women chefs' food is more subtle and sophisticated, while their male counterparts cook gutsier, deep-flavored, testosterone-driven food
- Women chefs cook with their hearts and souls, while male chefs cook with their head and their private parts
These clichés were constantly upended by the mostly stellar efforts of the chefs cooking for us. Alexandra Guarnaschelli, chef at Butter in New York City, made squab with foie-gras-draped croutons. Sounds like a dish cooked by a man, right? That's because Alex decided to play a shell game with the panelists by making a dish that was designed to be perceived as male to the judges.
On the other hand, male mixologist Eben Freeman (Tailor) confounded us by making a seriously delicious pink drink, a rhubarb gimlet (no umbrella, however).
What conclusions could and did we draw?
Mentors influence a chef's cooking style more than gender does. Achatz's mentor is Thomas Keller, and my guess is that Keller's cooking style and food philosophy influenced Achatz more than his gender did.
All the chefs were influenced and inspired by family members of both sexes. As Achatz noted, his mother and father ran a family-style restaurant at which his dad cooked and his mom ran the front of the house. And yet his mom did most of the cooking at home.
Cooking styles, then, are a function of experience, personality, and gender.
Restaurant kitchens have traditionally been male-dominated, macho, testosterone-driven places, and it's only been in the last ten or 15 years that we have started to see the emergence of women as head chefs. (Interestingly, women chefs in California and New Orleans have led that charge.) This trend means that the role gender plays in restaurant cooking is still evolving.
The only definitive conclusion: Gender certainly affects how chefs cook, but neither the chefs nor the panelists could articulate how and why exactly.
So no brilliant, earth-shattering conclusions were drawn Monday night, but it sure was fun. A good time was had by all, male and female chefs, male and female panelists, and audience members of both sexes.
What do you think, serious eaters? Do women chefs cook differently than their male counterparts? If so, how? And do you think you can taste the difference?
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26 Comments:
Anyone who thinks women cook differently than men has never watched Anne Burrell. Case closed.
As a woman who cooks, I depend on brute force sometimes like when I'm hacking apart a chicken to expose the marrow in the bones before returning them to the stock; or when I'm "butchering" lobsters. I'm sure there are men who don't have a lot of upper body strength and depend on more cerebral techniques to accomplish these tasks.
If anyone wants to do a real study about such a topic - try examining how people work around perceived "shortcomings" in the kitchen. See how women who may not have upper body strength go about moving a loaded tray or stockpot; see how men do more intricate tasks with larger hands and fingers.
As far as food flavor, there is no difference.
therealchiffonade at 8:23AM on 06/10/09
Re: the 'wife' comment--I may have misplaced my sense of humor this morning, but I'm not sure why I 'get' that is funny.
On topic:
It doesn't surprise me that there isn't much difference between male and female chefs, because I think the professional demands of working in a kitchen and feeding many people smooth over many gender differences.
Amongst 'civilians' I think there may be more differences: based on my experience, I do notice that men tend to assume that their diner has the same palate as themselves ("of course you want extra cheese! and you're just kidding when you say you like chocolate, right?") and women tend to have been socialized to be more accommodating to the needs of others. I think that just cooking for your own tastes, however, can be limiting, and that may be why men to have one or two 'signature dishes' rather than consider themselves 'cooks.'
Conversely, women also tend to be more calorie and nutrition conscious, which can put a damper on some creativity in meal and food selection.
Women are supposed to like pink food, eh? Like pizza with extra cheese and rare steaks, right?
;)
HeartofGlass at 8:25AM on 06/10/09
No, the whole premise is preposterous. "Culinary cross-dressing?" Please.
producestories at 8:30AM on 06/10/09
I'd like to hear more about the institutional hurdles faced by women in the culinary world: even if they cook the same as (or at the very least, as well as) men, they've been slow to make headway professionally. Ed mentioned that this was the case, but does it tie in to this discussion? Do people's ideas about women as "timid" or "subtle" cooks make them less likely to hire women to cook in their restaurants, or to eat at restaurants with women chefs? I also read the title and rolled my eyes, producestories, but even if the premise is silly it could be having a real impact on people's careers.
Ariel_W at 8:39AM on 06/10/09
@Ariel_W - It's definitely having an impact on people's careers. Read the laundry list of idiotic assumptions a group of culinary professionals made about women!
The reason women are so underrepresented in high-end kitchens isn't simply that there aren't as many women as men who want to work there - it's that kitchens still tend to be "boys' clubs," and from my limited experience in professional cooking, many male chefs simply don't believe that women can be as talented or powerful in the kitchen as men (not to mention the fact that the kitchen environment can be very sexist and unfriendly to women).
Articles like this, unfortunately, aren't debunking anything - their final conclusion is that yes, gender makes a difference, despite the fact that nobody could explain what that difference was. That doesn't sound like step forward to me, but rather an example of a group who found their assumptions unproven by this silly "experiment," and chose to hold on to them regardless.
producestories at 8:45AM on 06/10/09
I never heard of such a thing, that men and women "cook" differently. That's absurd and I think this panel proved it.
arm1970 at 8:46AM on 06/10/09
"What conclusions could and did we draw?
(1) Mentors influence a chef's cooking style more than gender does....
(2) All the chefs were influenced and inspired by family members of both sexes...
(3) Cooking styles, then, are a function of experience, personality, and gender. "
what?! how does the last point follow from the previous ones?
"Gender certainly affects how chefs cook, but neither the chefs nor the panelists could articulate how and why exactly."
this is just silly. producestories is absolutely right.
callmenaomi at 9:13AM on 06/10/09
"Gender certainly affects how chefs cook, but neither the chefs nor the panelists could articulate how and why exactly."
Yea this makes no sense. It's like saying Germans aren't good at sewing yet we couldn't measure any difference or articulate how they weren't good at sewing. You are fabricating gender differences. Men and women don't cook differently. Individuals cook differently.
chaevans at 9:24AM on 06/10/09
@callmenaomi
The statement wasn't made from the "experiement" alone. I believe that the gender differences call was made from the fact that the panel consisted of experts with many years of experience dealing with both sexes in the kitchen who have found that - at least in their own experience - there is a difference.
I also have many years of restaurant experience, and tend to agree. I wouldn't say women are better or worse in a professional kitchen, just different. Now whether that's because of the way professional kitchens are set up and the legacy of machismo in the way they are run is a different question. Perhaps even the infrastructure of a restaurant kitchen is less conducive to occupation by females.
Not to flog my blog, but coincidentally, one of our writers just put up a post about the exact same topic (she recently gave a talk at the ASFS about gender roles in home kitchens):
http://www.goodeater.org/2/post/2009/06/women-in-the-kitchen.html
GoodEaterKenji at 10:01AM on 06/10/09
um, so isn't cooking style a function of... basically everything under the sun? we could say it's a function of growing up in one region of the country/globe or growing up eating certain foods or ANYTHING we want! I'm sure gender can affect a cooking style but so can just about anything. So what did we really learn here?
foodinmouth at 10:10AM on 06/10/09
@heart of glass
The wife comment isn't really meant to be funny, it refers to one of the classic examples of a loaded question as it is defined in scholarly or legal terms. A loaded question is often, but not always, a "yes or no" question into which certain false presuppositions are loaded.
So "have you stopped beating your wife" is a yes or no question, but either answer damns the target into an admission of guilt.
If the target notices, they are forced to defend themselves against the false suggestion that they are or were beating their wife, but they'll probably be flustered at the surprise attack and make themselves look guilty. Or they would be, if that example wasn't the single most common example of a loaded question.
kevster at 10:11AM on 06/10/09
once orchestras started doing blind auditions for musicians, they wound up hiring a lot more women. sometimes people put unconcious prejudice into what they think is good, like assuming men perform better than women. if that applies to that situation, it may correlate to a lot of other cirumstances, including the kitchen.
gastronomeg at 10:32AM on 06/10/09
I was there that night (I'm the one who asked if the question wouldn't be better answered by sampling home cooks' meals) and I have to say the whole experience was so frustrating. And not only because we couldn't taste the food ;) Really, so much of what Gwen said was so contradictory, like that women have a lighter touch, but then she'd turn around and say how woman just make masses of food in the stereotypical jewish or italian mother way; eat! eat!
It sounded like a topic that had been brewed up late at night over a few too many cocktails. Add in the awkward pauses, and not too deft monitoring by the hosts, and what could have been a lively argument went flat.
Rethinking the home cook angle, there's no real answer there either. My mom is an excellent cook, but she was building a business while I was growing up, and we went out to diners almost every night. I never became a cook (a home cook, not a professional) until after I moved out and on my own. Now I take food and cooking very seriously, perhaps a bit too seriously, and have become an extremely enthusiastic amateur. I have definitely evolved something of a style, in which I mean there are flavor profiles and techniques I tend to return to again and again. If we had maybe been given which two chefs were cooking that course it would've been easier to discern which dish was whose. Like the squab course. Knowing that it had been between Alex Guarnaschelli and Aktar Nawab I could have easily said who had made which dish. Their styles of cooking and the flavors they use are so different, but equally delicious.
Eat Me Daily had a good write up of the night, too. Worth checking out.
CityMinx at 11:55AM on 06/10/09
You can tell the difference because the men are on the line and the women are working the pastry and dessert station. :-)
Truff at 12:33PM on 06/10/09
Hi all,
Gwen here. Got a couple of things to say.
First, thanks, Ed, for such a lovely post on the event.
Second: I'm feeling like I really need to defend myself here: I seem to have been seriously misheard! My fault, I suppose, for depending on sarcasm and air quotes! Guess I should have been clearer.
So: let's be very clear.
I do *not* believe that women cook more subtly, with more heart, from the reproductive organs, etc etc etc. I was playing with stereotype, trying to show how ridiculous those ideas are. To wit: we say ("we" being stereotype) at the same time that the same dish (for instance, a really hearty pork dish) is:
a) "cuisine grandmere," the product of years of home-cooking, a means of feeding up one's men, cooking from the heart, etc--thus "female"
b) manly, tough, rich cooking, a means of demonstrating your culinary conjones--the kind of stuff skinny women would never eat--thus "male"
...in other words: instead of talking about inherent differences in food, it's more usefl and more interesting to talk about how we talk about food--that is, how we *construct* it as gendered. And it's really important to talk (as I tried to do) about the effects of culture and economics on women in the kitchen and our perceptions of them.
It's true that I talked about spicy food as inappropriate for women because it "inflames the passions"--but I *did* mention that this is how people thought about spicy food for women IN THE NINETEENTH CENTURY. It's not, in fact, something that I believe! I was trying to make the point that there really is no "science" of "male" or "female" cooking!
As I said at the end of the forum, I really, really, REALLY do NOT believe in inherent, somehow biological differences between men and women that cause them to cook (or think, or write, or work in other ways) differently than men. As a scholar who has worked a whole lot on gender, I believe very strongly in the effects of culture and tradition--and nothing is more tradition-bound than the restaurant kitchen. I think it's hugely important to look at how women are perceived in the kitchen and to investigate the sources and effects of those means of looking--because otherwise, women will continue to be kept out of culinary power in the majority of cases.
So: for instance: when people say women cook "from the heart," what they're really saying is that women are more empathetic and less intelligent than the brainy men who cook from the head (that whole thing about men cooking more refined food, molecular gastronomy etc etc). As (ahem) a woman who likes to use her brain, this is not what I think. Instead, what I think is actually the case is that:
a) women have been discouraged from becoming "molecular gastronomists" in the same way that they have been discouraged from becoming scientists--by a lack of mentoring, by the old-boys-club world that is higher education in the sciences, by people like Larry Summers insisting women can't "do science," etc--a sensibility that trickles down right through the science education program in schools
b) just as women in science often aren't taken seriously, so women in cooking are often not taken seriously by the foodpress, and by many bloggers. When women and men cook the same dishes, they are talked about in different ways--and the homey grandmere thing gets perpetuated. Women have considerably less access to the foodpress, I think, and when they do have access, they are often written about as being "women chefs," and the language used to describe them is feminized to a huge degree. And when this happens, diners tend to perceive these women and the food they make in the same way. Women who cook are put in a different category than men who cook, and that's really unfortunate.
c) Women who cook still have considerably less access than men to backers; they are still taken less seriously; they still need to prove themselves a thousand times over. We may be over the days when certain pastry kitchens featured pictures of women naked but for drizzles of chocolate--but we are certainly not in an equitable labor situation.
I know many cooks who are women. I would never presume to think that I could tell their gender by their food; I have tremendous respect for their ability to make their way in a profession that sets up huge barriers to their success. They are, to a woman, smart, tough, uncompromising, ambitious, talented--that is, they have all the ingredients to be great chefs, and then some.
So: mea culpa if I was misunderstood. (And sorry for hijacking your blog with this long post, Ed!) Hope this clears things up--
Gwen
gwen1 at 12:36PM on 06/10/09
There is no gender in a kitchen when you have 10 entrees that need to be plated NOW or reaching for an artistic ideal.
Jikuu at 12:59PM on 06/10/09
@kevster--yes, I should have been more direct. I understand the concept of a 'loaded question,' but especially given the subject of the post, I think a less offensive one could have been chosen. Although it says something about the English language that the question is one that springs to mind, rather than "did you stop stealing the cookies," for example.
On topic, on an individual level, yes, everyone is the sum of there experiences so by definition, men and women have different experiences and those differences will be expressed in all of the actions of that individual. The question of whether stereotypically male and female styles are useful constructions to evaluate food seems silly, especially with professional cooks, as I said, for whom I think past experiences and technique have far greater influence than gender. (In personal, home cooking, I think 'gendered' socialization in regards to food probably has more of an influence.)
HeartofGlass at 1:01PM on 06/10/09
i think a more accurate assessment would have been to have the chefs cook normally, without knowing the guessing game that would take place. they should have been told to cook to impress. the chefs trying to persuade the judges to guess male or female completely confounds this study and makes any results and gender differences difficult to determine.
_greenbean at 1:12PM on 06/10/09
My inclination is that cooking is a lot like film directing in this respect. You can direct a movie with a perspective that is heavily influenced by your gender, or not. A male director is probably never going to get the female perspective right and a female director is never going to get the male perspective right, but that's not to say that they can't both come awfully close, or even make a gender-neutral statement. If the analogy holds, then it may also be the case that women are more often aware of when they are injecting their gender perspective into the final product.
bgruber at 2:37PM on 06/10/09
In my experience, once you show the Boss you can do the job it doesn't metter who you are.
bodyk at 2:46PM on 06/10/09
@Gwen - All your points are good, but unfortunately none of them came through in this post.
@bodyk - The problem is getting "the Boss" to let you have a chance.
producestories at 3:17PM on 06/10/09
@bodyk--I guess I was lucky. The chef I worked for while I was in culinary school was good like that. However, the absolute worst I've ever worked with was a "chef professor" (who had not cooked in a commerical kitchen in 20 years) who was waiting tables at the same restaurant during the summer. I was cooking on the line, and he didn't appreciate that. He went to the (real) chef and said " Why don't you get the skirts off the line and put them back on pantry where they belong." I went freaking BALISTIC. Needless to say, his entrees took twice as long as anyone else's for me to cook and plate. And if he complained, I simply told him "my skirt got in the way. guess you'll have to wait." A week later I overheard him complaining about his diminishing tips.
beth1 at 4:06PM on 06/10/09
Gwen's explaination in the comments makes plenty of sense, though I think perhaps the Astor Center panel asked the wrong questions and that muddled the issue. What I take from Gwen's post is that there's sexism in restaurant kitchens, not that chefs' cooking is gendered. And of course that's important to talk about and understand the reasons why.
Restaurant sexism has assuredly been a part of the French haute cuisine tradition. Good rundown on this is here: ttp://www.stratsplace.com/rogov/women_chefs.html Also, "The Taste of America" by John and Karen Hess also touch on this, particularly on some sexist claptrap said by Paul Bocuse about how women could never be chefs.
In France, there's a distinction drawn between haute cuisine (in restaurants, prepared by men) and la cuisine de la bonne femme (at home, prepared by women). Logically, one is not better then the other, but which one has been accorded glory?
With the cooking and eating stunt I think the panel was trying to touch on the gender issues inherent in consumption of food, which to me is most interesting: why would a pink cocktail be girly? Why is red meat for dudes, while salads are for women? Some background on this can be found in Laura Shapiro's wonderful books "Something from the Oven" and "Perfection Salad."
mslaas at 5:03PM on 06/10/09
@mslaas: I take your point, but I don't think you can separate sexism in kitchens from gender in cooking--both, I think, are social constructions with serious real-world effects.
anyway. if you want to see a little more of what i'm thinking about this, it's here: http://wordyappetites.blogspot.com/
gwen1 at 5:21PM on 06/10/09
It would have been interesting to see what dishes would have been made had the chefs not known that they were going to be judged for gender.
As in, would some have made stuff that "sterotypically" would have been the other gender anyway? Or would things actually fall along the theoretical stereotypes on male vs female cooking that you guys brought up? Clearly this was not intended as a big scientific study that would reach statistical significance...but double-blinding would have been nice.
I think it probably wouldn't necessarily have made a difference in the ability of the judges to determine who cooked the food (since I agree that factors other than sex are more important), but it would at least seem to be less intentional in getting the judges to guess wrong.
wunami at 6:08PM on 06/10/09
@ cityminx - thanks for the shout out about the EMD post!
Mdotmet at 12:16AM on 06/11/09