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What Do You Like to Read When Eating Solo?

20090312-bookplate.jpgThe New York Times' Sketchbook column rounds up authors and their favorite dinner companions—in the form of reading material—when eating solo. One Man's Meat by E.B. White and Michel Faber's Under the Skin about harvesting humans for suppers are some of the more eclectic options.

Dining by oneself is a contentious issue. I see dining out alone as a lovely pleasure, but there are people who cannot and will not ever eat by themselves in a restaurant due to shyness, just feeling uncomfortable, or who knows what. Certainly no one wants to eat dinner alone in a romantic restaurant at 8 p.m. on a Saturday night, but there's a time and a place for these meals.

My ideal meal alone? Lunch at an airy, somewhat busy place with comfortable seating, sans hipster scene. Eating right after the lunch rush is best because there's still an energy in the room, but it's not hectic or crowded. My eating companion? Short stories by Alice Munro or science-fiction. Fiction is an escape, and if I read the news I feel like I'm too grounded and businesslike for a luxurious meal alone. A note of advice: Unless you like silent mocking and judgment, steer clear from US Weekly and the like. I'll admit that I do occasionally 'read' these soul-suckers, but only in the safety of my own home.

Do you enjoy eating out alone? What do you read?

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Facebook, Twitter, BBC online. Can't live without my Blackberry, mealtime solo is a good time to catch up.

I rarely eat out alone, I'd rather stay in and cook for myself! When I do eat alone, I like to read plays, usually comedies, especially Nicky Silver.

This Christmas I got Alone in the Kitchen with an Eggplant, a collection of essays (and recipes!) about eating alone, edited by Jenni Ferrari-Adler. Some of the essays are funny, some are sad, some have inspired new adventures in the kitchen. It's a lovely way to celebrate cooking something for yourself.

The back of the cereal box.

I LOVE eating alone. It's why I value lunches so much, even on the weekends when I sometimes hunt down new hole in the wall spots without hub. It's my alone time.

And I usually read the LA Times Health/Food/Sports/Calendar sections - easy because my work gets it daily.

if i'm eating dinner alone, i'm sitting at the bar, and i'm reading the new yorker.

I LOVE eating out alone! I have no qualms about being solo at the sushi bar (I've met some fun and interesting people that way) or getting comfy by myself in a booth. I generally read whatever is my source of the moment: whether it's Harry Potter (for the nth time), David Sedaris or even the latest issue of Real Simple.

i like eating out alone. do it often and NEVER bring reading material. to me, bringing something to read is awkward. i'm good company alone or with others!

I love to eat by myself in a restaurant. I usually bring a good book (and "good" is relative - depends on my mood) but often the book is just a prop that sits open in front of me while I people-watch. And then every now and then I catch the eye of someone who realizes what I'm doing and shares my secret! :)

I dont like eating alone at restaurants, but I actually enjoy eating by myself at home. But I ALWAYS have to read while eating, or else I cannot enjoy the meal. I read trashy chick-lit like the shopaholic series, or young adult mind-numbing series like gossip girl and the sweet valley twins....yes, stamp loser on my forehead please.

I enjoy eating alone, and read whatever book or magazine I have with me. If I don't have anything to read, I like to people-watch.

I usually listen to my MP3 player rather than read nowadays. Usually I listen to the Brian Lehrer and Leonard Lopate shows in podcast form.

One of my favorite pleasures in life is eating alone with my book - any book - at hand. I'm cursed with the feeling of self-consciousness as a solo diner - even though I'm very careful about the times I choose to be one, and careful not to overstay my welcome, I have met with a lot of discourteous service and rude glares in my time. Things have gotten better over the years, though, as restaurants in my area have become more single-diner friendly, so now there's not much need to feel uncomfortable.

I'm so glad so many others like to dine out with a good book too :)

I cherish dining alone, since I always have someone or people around me all the time so I do not read, even if I have bought a book or magazine along the way, whether the restaurant is extremely busy, dead, or anything in between.

For me, it would be awkward to read at a restaurant because I become engrossed when I read novels (sci-fi/fantasy), and often find myself looking up 8-10 hours later w/o realizing that much time has passed. The restaurant wouldn't like me. I'm a little better with magazines (MHQ, Giant Robot) and usually come up for air a couple hours later.

My big treat, when I can sneak away and have lunch by myself, is to stop at a market and get the latest issues of National Enquirer, the Globe, and the Star tabloids. It's my time for feeding my body good food and feeding my brain utter nonsense. Always great fun.............................

Eating out alone is time to read _The New York Times_. It is still big enough that it needs a restaurant table to spread out on.

Harvey

Now that I have a Kindle, I am more likely to eat alone and the Kindle is such a user friendly toy that doesnt get in the way. Also, because it is so new, people ask about it, making it a great way to meet people. I cannot wait for my Cook's Illustrated Free book to download.

I love eating alone, especially if I've had a rough day. I'll read anything from chick lit to Great Literature, but my favourite treat is a brand new comic book.

I love eating out alone, as do many of you above. I'm a student, so while at school I always eat alone, and almost always am accompanied by a textbook! But eating out, ideally it is lunch, or coffee time; in warm weather, with a lovely bit of nonfiction germane to some interest of mine. Or a magazine--Bon App or Food and Wine; or an art book.
Armed with my sunglasses (if outside), no better way to spend a Saturday afternoon, is there not?

I love to eat alone since most of my friends are picky eater. I usually read fiction, travel book, chef books, even magazines. I like a me time!

I enjoy eating alone...it's very peaceful and gives me time to clear my head. Ideally I'll have a magazine with me...something light and easy to read, like Mountain Bike Action or Running Times. If I'm at home, it's the computer. That said, if I'm out, I do prefer to have company.

Engine build articles in HOT ROD, or other car mags.

Rarely dine solo at a restaurant, but ideal when I do is lunch at a little sandwich place/coffee shop w/a David Sedaris book--no more entertaining pseudo dining companion :)

Since my work requires me to be away from home a little more than half the time, I do have to eat solo in restaurants frequently. I do not particularly enjoy it. Eating out is a social experience; to do so alone is akin to the solo practice of other pleasures best experienced with another...if you understand my meaning.

Other diners have their companions, it would be impolite to intrude. The server is not there to socialize with the patrons -- not to the extent I have in mind for a meal companion -- nor am I willing to be needy enough with a stranger to try to engage them to that extent. Also, I am sometimes in places where most of the patrons and servers have a different primary language than mine. It's lonely, even when the food is superb.

Once I get back home, I need to cook for the family for a few days. I can't face another restaurant and they are clamoring for me to cook (It's not my profession, but I enjoy it and have some skill. The rest of the family...well, they don't starve when I'm away, but cooking is not a priority much less a passion for them.) Once we get past that, we certainly go out and have a great time doing so...then I have to go back on travel.

I try and make time every day to sit for an hour in the pub with a newspaper (Guardian or Independent) and a pint. It can be over lunch, but I just need that time to myself. I eat alone quite frequently when traveling, and it's always whatever local English-language paper I can find. I eat better alone when out than when at home. If my family's not around, I just want basic sustenance...I can't be bothered to make a proper meal for one.

I eat out alone a lot - locally for lunch and traveling on business. Always with a book, generally fiction [even at home]. I use a really convenient book holder/cover doohickey that holds the book open and makes reading and eating quite easy. Check it out at: http://www.jbcreations.net/
But I'll probably get a Kindle. Hope it's the conversation starter for me that it is for ocarol [actually my jb creations book holder has started lots of conversations].

Life can be boring if you are single, hard if you have family with young children and sad if you have to stay at home all because you don't have friends.

We have worked with families, children and community and feel we are all living in a world of isolation. Its hard to see family disintegration, single parents suffer in isolation and children lost in the wilderness.

Isolated young families of working parents with children lack support are find life harder to cope. We shun single parents and young adults desperate to find a partners and raise children. The social net work sites, dating agency for single and the culture of texting as a method to make friends speaks volumes about our society. The credit crunch, unemployment and crumbling economy are making life harder for people to muscle up the courage to go out and talk.

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Life can be boring if you are single, hard if you have family with young children and sad if you have to stay at home all because you don't have friends.

We have worked with families, children and community and feel we are all living in a world of isolation. Its hard to see family disintegration, single parents suffer in isolation and children lost in the wilderness.

Isolated young families of working parents with children lack support are find life harder to cope. We shun single parents and young adults desperate to find a partners and raise children. The social net work sites, dating agency for single and the culture of texting as a method to make friends speaks volumes about our society. The credit crunch, unemployment and crumbling economy are making life harder for people to muscle up the courage to go out and talk.

You will never be alone, Please Check out: http://www.meet-eat.com

I love eating alone for brunch on the weekends. It lets me enjoy a meal and some quiet time to myself. I catch up on reading my magazines (Inc. Fast Company, Gourmet, Bon Appetit, Conde Nast Traveler, New Yorker, The Atlantic -- yes, I NEED time alone just for these) and books, especially those on writing...something dreamy, that's what I like for eating alone.

I usually go with fiction but something that doesn't require a lot of concentration. Hemingway isn't the best choice when I have to stop reading every two minutes to reassuringly smile at the elderly couple that's about to set me up with their grandson so I'm not so sad.

This was a bad habit of mine. I always had to read while I ate whether I was alone or not. It took a long time but now I refuse to have anything with words near me when I eat including the box of cereal.

Playboy, Penthouse, that sort of thing.

To escape the office, I frequently eat out alone at my favorite place, Eastern Lights (Durham, NC). They know me, they have delicious food, and they leave me alone so I can read. I love to read during lunch, and if I'm at work, my boss insists on talking to me, despite the fact that I have my back to him and a book touching my nose. Any book I'm reading is good, but I love the Anita Blake books. Vampires, adventure, and zombies go so well with handmade Chinese noodles... Plus the paperback size it just perfect for the one hand reading, one hand with chopsticks method.

My favorite books to read while eating are either foodie books by Anthony Bourdain and Ruth Reichl, or books where the characters eat a lot. Mercedes Lackey is very good for that, as is L.M. Montgomery.

I love to read about food while eating, and I eat most of my meals alone (not as sad as it sounds!). My favorite dining companion is Laurie Colwin - both her fiction and her food writing are delicious.

Friday morning is my coffee/pastry/book morning. I go down to the local bakery, have a seat at the counter, swivel around a few times to see if I got one of the good seat (full swivel necessary) and the have whatever the bakeress recommends that morning. She is awesome. She made pumpkin empanadas when I described them as a weekend treat of my childhood. (TRY THEM!) I take with me a book that I read simultanenously. For some reason Right now I'm reading BROTHERS by Yu Hua. Strongly suggest it. This morning I had a Sumatra blend and an almond flaky croissant. Most wondrous.

I never understood people who don't like to eat alone. It is one of my favourite things to do. If I am eating alone, you can bet your life that I will have a book of some description- there's usually at least 2 in my bag. What I am reading depends on my mood and it depends on whether or not I have work to catch up with. If it's fiction, then it will be historical fiction or science-fiction/fantasy. If it's non-fiction, then it will usually be food-related. I went to a bar a few weeks ago with a rugby book. Got some strange looks that night, let me tell you.

I find that eating alone allows me to fully employ my five senses in a way I could not if I was eating with friends and focused on side conversations. There's something vaguely secret agent-like in hiding behind a book (remember Wei Tang in Lust, Caution?). I like to dig into a Haruki Murakami or Hunter S. Thompson. Now I haven't had the guts yet to do this, but I wonder what reactions I would get if I opened up a copy of, say, The Kama Sutra (awk...).

Hey Grace, um....I think Under the Skin's subject matter is supposed to be a secret when you first pick up the book?

the local independent weekly newspaper....

When I lived in Victoria, BC, I loved eating alone. There were pubs - plenty of them, and some really good ones - and I could wander downtown, stop at a good newsagent, pick up the most recent magazines (Atlantic, Harpers, Scientific American, sometimes Rolling Stone, sometimes Guitar Player, and whatever looked kinda intellectually interesting, like New Yorker, Civilization, etc.) and I'd buy three or four of those and settle into a pub with a stir-fry or a pot pie and some pints of excellent beer and enjoy a wonderful afternoon.

Alas, now I live in LA (the San Fernando Valley, really), and there are no pubs and almost no newsagents, and you have to drive to get anywhere, so an enjoyable four-pint experience is out of the question. I want to move back to Victoria!

One of the best memories I have with reading and food was in the student union building in college. They had a Chick Fillet there. Once a week, I would get nuggets, fries, and chocolate milk for lunch. I remember reading Memoirs of a Geisha while enjoying my food, and since then I always recall the taste of greasy, salty, chocolatey goodness whenever thinking of that story.

Eating alone is one of the things that makes life worth living, and I always bring something to read as my dining companion if I don't have someone to spend time with, which is often. Some selections lately include Monocle magazine, New York Streetscapes, Dark Banquet: Blood and the Curious Lives of Blood Feeding Creatures, and The Little Book of Atheist Spirituality. I tend to read non-fiction more than fiction, but when I read fiction, I often find my food gets neglected a bit more....

Still, reading and eating are best friends, in my opinion.

There are some places I feel more comfortable with eating alone than in others. Cafes and teahouses are ideal. I actually touched on this topic in a blog post of mine: A Food Lover's Book of Days/Dining Alone. Life is Meals: A Food Lover's Book of Days by James and Kay Salter has a wonderful chapter entitled "Solitary Dinners" I really resonated with, and I think those of us who enjoy eating alone may enjoy it, too.

I have a quote from a book I was reading one Saturday, while eating, other solo readers and eaters might find interesting: “In roadside diners and late-night cafeterias, hotel lobbies and station cafes, we may dilute our feeling of isolation in a lonely public place and hence rediscover a distinctive sense of community.” - Alain de Botton, The Art of Travel.

When I go out to lunch I almost always take a book with me. It could be anything from James Patterson to Tim Dorsey to books on the history of motorcycle clubs to Jesse Venturas political books. I have no preference, I'll read just about anything that interests me.

When I eat alone, I make sure I have a small novel and my journal. I think it presents a real opportunity to engage with the food and the meal - it's also a chance to speak to the staff and learn a little more about the place you are eating. While servers and runners typically have no time to chat, I usually ask for the sommelier if I have some decent wine. Anyway, I read my book in between courses and take notes on the meal when I'm eating.

I'd agree with you about bringing in the fiction, putting away the news. Scrolling through a PDA for latest NY Times articles always made me tenser and "seriousfaced." Ironically, one of Portland's magazine's did a news article earlier this year on the merits of eating alone:

http://themaineswitch.com/story/view/2268/

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