Served: The Hook-Up
I blog by day and wait tables in a New York City restaurant by night. I'm excited to bring you Served, dispatches from the front of the house. Enjoy!
The restaurant owner’s parents had flown in from Texas. After all, their son B. was opening his first restaurant, in Manhattan. They sat on table one, which had yet to be designated table one. It was our second night of service, and we were still ruminating about how to classify our tables and split them up into waiter stations.
Yet somehow, it happened that I was to wait on B.’s mom and dad. They seemed thoroughly easy-going and amiable, yet I was mildly terrified. They made maybe the seventh assemblage whom I had served, and I felt ill-equipped to wow them. I hoped I wouldn’t spill their Hungarian wine or cheerfully relay flawed cheese info.
It turned out to be painless. They had come in the previous night, too, and decided on evening number two to order what they had not eaten on night number one. B. introduced me, talked to them, and relayed their wine order to me. I scribbled down the rest of what they wanted and uneventfully brought it to their table.
“Make sure to show me their check,” B. said, “before you drop it.” In the early days, we were computer-free. I diligently recorded what they ordered and added up the damage. We kept losing the calculator that would tell us what was 8.725% of the bill—tax.
When the time came, I handed the check-in-progress to B.. Next to the three dollar olives and mustard miso pickles, he scribbled “comp.” In other words, B. bought his parents six bucks worth of freebies. “That’s it?” I asked, surprised. I was expecting a more drastic rewrite of their check. But that was it.
To Comp or Not To Comp
B.’s philosophy, I think, was that he was just opening his first, little place; friends, family, our initial (and almost instantaneously loyal) customers, even investors were expected to support us financially when they came to drink and eat and grace us with their presence. Our gifts to them tended to be eight dollar nibbles rather than eighty dollar bottles of wine.
But that was not always the case. Old friends, old bosses, the occasional industry person we wanted to impress might get a dazzling array of food, cheese, meats and beverage pairings.
I learned to keep the wine glasses of certain friends and regulars full. And it only made sense to send the couple who owned an adored dessert restaurant an extra dessert or two. I learned that it is better to bestow something extra as a sign of appreciation: a snazzy dessert wine, some truffles, then it was to simply discount the check
New Year's Eve Eve
The last time I came to eat and drink at my restaurant, it was December 30th. We would close for the next two days for New Year's. It was late, and brutally cold outside. My friend who I had dragged along with the promise of cheese, the staff, and I were the only people inside.
I was craving some la tur. It’s a mixed milk cheese: sheep, cow and goat. It tastes like buttery cheesecake. We ordered three cheeses, la tur among them, and J. came back with five. “They’re not going to make it til Friday,” she said, gazing at the cheeses, “and I didn’t want them to go to waste.” My friend was all about the wasabi pickled green beans that we sometimes serve with gorgonzola picante. I couldn’t get enough of the silky, herbaceous pecorino toscano which J. brilliantly paired with sage pesto.
And then, the cook slid a chocolate cake in front of us, dousing it in heavy cream.
“No you didn’t!” I said, scooping up a bite. My friend got props for knowing intuitively to roll around the cake in the cream, letting it get nice and soggy.
The bubbly wines would go flat in 48 hours, so we finished those off, too. J. gave me two open bottles of rosé to take with me. They would be good tomorrow but no good by Friday. “They should go to a good home,” J. insisted. My stomach was certainly a good home.
Out and About
An old friend, a cook, came into town last night before heading off to Spain to work in a kitchen there for nine months. Where should I take him? I deliberated obsessively.
I settled on the sister restaurant of where I used to work, a bistro with solid food, kickass gnocchi, and a chef who loves me (I love him too, of course). The maître d’ is a regular where I work now, as is the sommelier; the general manager used to be my boss. The place feels like home.
The bartender poured me sparkling rosé while I waited for him. They brought more sparkly wine to the table, a basket of the best, fluffiest gougères I have tasted, and menus. We ordered sparingly, as the kitchen would send us what we had failed to ask for: their homemade mozzarella, duck and foie gras rillettes, tuna carpaccio. And all was well with the world.
I wanted to go back to my restaurant for some chocolate cake, but no way were we getting out of their without dessert. Crème brulée, chocolate fondue, and a couple of glasses of scotch later, we left happy, full and tipsy.
The Story
I would never deliberately hook up someone with the intention of going to where they work and getting some love in return. But in a more inconspicuous and loose way, that is exactly how the biz works. Cooks make little money, but they are sure to get some capital in pork belly or risotto in the small New York restaurant world. I want to send a manager at a great restaurant down the street our new chicken liver dish. I know she will love it.
When J. and I went out to eat a few weeks ago, we picked a spot where we knew a cook and the wine director. That scallop dish and the tart, nutty white that they paired with it rocked, as did the warm greeting, friendly faces, inside jokes, and conviviality we exchanged.
One of my favorite parts of working in a restaurant is getting to meet people from other restaurants. It’s getting to see what they do, and getting to eat somewhere the big perk of being a sort of VIP. And it’s just as cool being on the other side: making someone’s night with a little bowl of stuffed peppadews, a splash of sparkling shiraz, and some love.
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8 Comments:
Fabulous perspective Hannah. As a former server and current restaurant goer, I agree completely with the idea of comping a little to get a major impact.
Our favorite restaurant (where we are recognized, but hardly regulars) usually comps us an after-dinner drink or sends out something small but special. I understand the logic of restaurant finances and know they aren't giving away the house. But it makes a huge impact on us to be recognized in that small way, we come back again and again and talk up the restaurant to our friends.
maryr123 at 9:47AM on 01/06/09
I love your tone, Hannah.
I have to say, though, your headline led me to expect something rather more salacious...
Michele Humes at 10:08AM on 01/06/09
Hannah,
Love it this week. The little extras from the kitchen and the attention from staff makes us feel like royalty. Cheers!
bigbite at 11:08AM on 01/06/09
once again, you brought me back in time to my own experiences.... and how i always loved treating my customers to drinks or desserts ... even during the slowest of times. there's something so deeply satisfying about sharing food and the mutual respect that develops between both sides of the place.
also the "feeding of the staff" -- wanting to nurture your fellow workers.... the kids that worked for us would hang around after hours, finishing their dinners, and digging into the ice cream.... it was a real family feeling and that's what i miss most about it. we all still keep in touch and they always invite us to their weddings.
very, very well written and once again - thank you for your insights. lit's ike a little movie running in my mind ....
pooch at 11:39AM on 01/06/09
Part of my extended in-lawed family owns a restaurant in East Texas and my meals get comped all the time much to my chagrin. I understand it's hard out there, especially now, so I make an effort to get the waiter to bring me the check before the family gets it. Coincidentally, the other side of the family doesn't get comped. I guess being God mother to their daughter has its perks but I refuse to not pay or try my hardest to wrestle the check from them.
ArchieLeach at 11:41AM on 01/06/09
I love the way this story flows and comes together. I agree - a small recognition always makes a huge impact and doesn't have to be anything big, but let me tell you, back in high school when I went to the same bagel vendor every morning for 4 years... after 1 year when I'd walk up and he'd already know what I wanted - that alone was enough to put a smile on my face all day that day. It's just being remembered. When I tended bar, I used to always say hi to my regulars and they appreciated it as much as the people in the video store I worked in my late teens, where I'd remember the regulars by name and talk to them about their recent rentals (we didn't rent "that" kind of movie, so it was never awkward for me to know what they'd rented). People really do appreciate being remembered, knowing they're not just "one of many" :)
feistyfoodie at 12:24PM on 01/06/09
I love being your friend :-p
I wish i had something edible to surprise you with :\
radiatedchimp at 1:49PM on 01/06/09
feistyfoodie nails it..."people really do appreciate being remembered." I began my working life scooping ice cream at a Baskin-Robbins store. I learned, early on, that a smile, a warm greeting and if possible, a reference to a regular or recent order, combined with a good product at a fair price is the right path to success. Nothing I've experienced in the ensuing 43 years has taken the shine off that early lesson. Great job, Hannah!
Scottzel at 5:28PM on 01/20/09